… in an instant – 20 years later …

... i was 30 when i met my wife. i wasn't looking for a date, let alone a wife when i walked into that 'big church on top of the hill' where she was the marimba player in the center of the platform, but i can't say i even really noticed her. i went home after service and called my sister to tell her that i believed i had found a new church and before i knew what i was saying, i told her my wife was in the building but i hadn't met her yet.

... the church was starting the first of a series of 'new member classes' that night, and i felt i was to join, so i went. my wife just happened to be the lady who ran the new members classes and it was that night that we met and we got each others names. we would see each other in the halls of church and say 'hi' and i continued to go to the Sunday night before service classes.

... two weeks later we had an evangelist come and do a week of meetings. i really wanted to go, so i took the week off of work. there was a couple that ran the jr high ministry at the church that had been talking to me about working with the youth, and they were good friends of hers and they asked me if i wanted them to save me a seat for the night meetings. i did not know that she had already told them that i was her husband.  i said yes and i went to the morning meetings alone, but we sat together that week during the night meetings and became friends.

... on the Sunday morning the day after the meetings, we sat together for morning service, and after service i asked her if she wanted to go to the mall with me to buy a new tie, i really had a thing for ties and i really liked the ties the evangelist had worn all week. that was seriously the only thing i was thinking when i asked her if she wanted to go shopping with me. she said that was funny, because she needed to go to the mall to buy a birthday present for her brother.

... when we got to the mall, there was snow and ice by her side of the car, and i reached out to help her over the ice when i felt the LORD spoke to me and said 'that's where she belongs, on my arm.'

... kinda freaked me out, and i had no idea what she thought about anything, let alone about me, this guy she just met that had spent the last week telling her bits and pieces of my rather shady past, including the part about my 18 months in the hands of the Federal Prison System, and not a clue about getting married.

... we went in, did our shopping, had lunch and left.

... Sunday night service we sat together again. then on Monday i quit my job and had the overwhelming desire to tell her, but i didn't even have her phone number at this point, so i found the leader of the new members ministry's phone number which was in the weekly bulletin and i called them to see if they would give me her number. little did i know that my wife had already told the leader that i was her husband, so they were very eager to give it to me.

... i called her and found out she was going to her brother's birthday party, but we could talk after.  so on Monday night, February 5th, after she got home from her brothers party, we talked on the phone for about two hours, and then i asked her if she was hearing the same thing from the LORD that i was. she was and we became engaged and spent the next hour or so planning our up and coming wedding. mind you, still haven't even been on a real date yet.

... Tuesday night we went out to dinner with her parents, and i asked her father if i could have his daughter's hand. i did not know that my wife had told her parents on the very first Sunday morning when she saw me walk in the building that i was her husband. he said i could and then proceeded to ask me about my recent unemployment.

... Wednesday night church, Thursday night she had to pack and get ready for Friday night when i rented a car and took her to meet my parents in the mountains of North Carolina. still haven't been on a date.. lol

.. i think our first actual date was the next Saturday when we went to Maymont Park where i managed to squirt mustard on her nose and all over her white sweater while having our big first date meal of a hotdog in the park.

... on February 14th, (so i could remember easily, lol), i went to her work with flowers and a ring and officially proposed.

... on Saturday February 17th we were in the grocery store when my wife notices that the ring that i had purchased a week ago, and had given to her three days earlier, was no longer on her finger. she lost the wedding ring after three days.

... she asked me if i wanted to call off the wedding, which was planned for August 16th, a mere 6 months later.  as you may have guessed, i had no intention of calling off the wedding, and on August 16th, 1996, we became husband and wife.

.. and now it's been 20years...

... if you keep your focus on the LORD, He can completely change your world in a minute.

... trust me on this. lol

... happy anniversary honey. 



Author: orland

.. i was born into an average family in the mid-west of the United States of America. my parents were divorced when i was young. ... i have been fortunate to have experienced many things that only the rich get to see. i once stayed in the Presidential Suite of the Lai Lai Sheraton Hotel, in Taipei, Taiwan. this suite composed the top two floors of the Lai Lai, where my private room overlooked the city of Taipai. ... and i have spent time in the Federal Prison System of this country as well. ... i had a construction company on the road to 'success and prosperity' and fell pray to the lures of the American Christianity Syndrome. but thank the good LORD, He allowed it all to crash around me. ... now i am quite happy to be poor, relying only on Him ....

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